”I love to see images of people comfortable in their own bodies.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could all feel great about ourselves in the nude? 

I really envy those who are unashamed of their nakedness and wish I could be liberated enough to even chill out on a naturist beach.  My man is really keen for us to become “nature lovers” but I’ve a way to go yet to be convinced that it’s such a good idea.

He’s working on me though!

The following extract is from an amusing blog by a Dutch lady, who addresses the subject of ”sexuality and nudity in Europe

I just can’t imagine myself, maybe I have such a pea brain, that people, strangers, literally anyone and everyone can see what my buttocks looked like… stripped naked and published for 16 million people to read.

With all these thoughts running in my mind, I quickly ran through the pages to read what these unclothed courageous women have to tell. The editorial was all about: What a woman wants with her body to be changed

“Hmm, interesting...” I thought.

As I turned the pages, I got amused by the sizes and shapes of their bodies. You see, they aren’t models, they have regular bodies so it is very easy to identify ourselves with them. And they aren’t really fat too.[more via]

For a factual summary of anal sex from Wikipedia:

“Anal sex is a form of human sexual behavior which encompasses many sexual acts involving the anus, anal cavity, sphincter valve and/or rectum. The term anal sex, however, is often restricted to anal intercourse: the insertion of the erect penis into the rectum.

It is a form of sexual behavior considered to be comparatively high in risk, due to the vulnerability of the tissues and the septic nature of the anus. As the rectal mucosa provides little natural lubrication, a lubricant (such as a personal lubricant, for example) is most often required or preferred when penetrating the anus.”

Well, we all know what it is, but the real “ins and outs” (pun intended!) are very individual and personal.

For the uninitiated, here’s a list of 10 golden rules to get you started:

1. Anal intercourse is the least practiced form of anal sex.

There are many ways to enjoy the anus erotically. The most common techniques include touching the anal opening while masturbating or stimulating a partner’s anus during intercourse or oral sex.

Some people enjoy the sensation of a finger - their own or a lover’s - insinuated into their anal opening and gently rotated. Others may prefer the insertion of a dildo or vibrator beyond the anal opening and short anal canal into the larger rectum. Many men, including hetereosexuals, prefer this form of penetration.

Oral-anal lovemaking is popularly known as rimming. The very idea disgusts some people. Others enjoy performing it or allowing themselves to be probed in this special way.

2. Anal stimulation, including intercourse, is not painful if done properly.

The belief that anal stimulation, especially intercourse, has to hurt is a persistent and dangerous myth. Just as pain anywhere in the body indicates that something is wrong, so is the same true of the anal area. With its high concentration of nerve endings, the anus can produce extreme agony when it is mistreated. Yet it can be a source of great pleasure.

When a finger, object or penis is intorduced into the anus, the anal muscles go into spasm, as if fighting off an invasion. Pain will result if the partners do not wait for these muscles to relax. Under sufficient stress they will eventually collapse and the pain subside, unless further damage is done. But, any ‘pleasure’ afforded from this kind of activity derives mostly from the absence of discomfort.

Maximum anal pleasure requires the elimination of all pain or physical trauma from the anal experience. Self-protection on the part of the passive partner involves being ready to say “no” until he or she is ready to proceed. Readiness is a combination of physical relaxation, usually helped along by plenty of leisurely anal touching, and desire.

Occasionally the anal muscles are relaxes, but the passive partner is still not in the mood. Stimulation should mount only in proportion to the degree of receptivity. [click for more via sexuality.org]

This is number 37 on the list and a rather delicate matter, to my mind.

I would go as far as to say that only some women actually really enjoy anal sex, but that most men do.

I can understand the attraction of performing (giving, rather than receiving) anal sex from the male perspective - tightness, forbidden territory, partner submission etc, but for a woman, there’s a whole lot of other issues.  Trust is a key factor; it’s necessary to be completely relaxed and lubricated before allowing a cock anywhere near the anal opening, and if a guy tries to gain entry before his partner is ready, then he can only expect rejection.

Anal sex is something that a lot fewer couples have tried than you'd believe from what you read on the internet or see in porn. It's something you might like to try, but you both have to want to do it. She's not likely to respond with warmth if you keep pretending you're poking her anus by accident. And she won't believe you if you tell her you just didn't want to ask for directions, even if that's how you are when you're driving around lost, looking for somewhere.”

Come on guys!

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Do you have any idea what your man gets up to behind your back?

I don’t mean, ‘is he having an affair?’, but, have you ever wondered whether he dresses up in your underwear, or wanks over your lovely lingerie? 

How does it make you feel to imagine such a scenario?  I have to say, I find the image of my man dressed in my knickers and stockings pretty hilarious but the idea of him masturbating with a pair of my (worn) knickers over his face is alarmingly arousing.

I’ve put on a black pair of stockings and a black and red suspender belt. Now as my cock is already excited and weeping, I thought I’d wear a pair of black silky knickers, cos I thought what with my cock weeping, I must be letting off a sex odour down there [via todgertalk]

Considering the vast differences between the genders in the way we think, feel, respond and function in general, it’s amazing really that men and women ever actually manage to get it on with each other.

Maybe it’s simply that opposites do and always will attract, and rather than fretting over the stuff that annoys us about our partners, we should just accept their irritating habits as the norm and learn to focus on the qualities, or indeed similarities, that attracted us to them in the first place.

And, if after a huge row you manage to come together (excuse the pun) once again in the bedroom (or wherever), then that’s a good enough reason if ever there was one, to stick with the relationship.

Women are experts at multitasking. A woman can be writing a shopping list while cooking and asking her husband to check the children have done their homework. Brain scans reveal a woman’s brain is never disengaged, even when she is asleep. Men, on the other hand, find multi-tasking difficult.

......men and women think differently, believe different things and have different perceptions, priorities and behaviours.[more via]

I remember being horrified when I learnt that my own parents “had sex”, but I’d never in my wildest dreams pictured them like this!

In the fifties, and even the sixties, oral sex was considered either daring cutting edge sexual habit or sexual perversity. Primarily pushed by pornography oral sex is now considered mainstream [via]

Now, we all love chocolate don’t we?

It’s just as good to share your indulgence with a playmate.

Lovely, messy fun!

According to Italian researchers, women who eat chocolate regularly have a better sex life than those who deny themselves the treat. Those consuming the sugary snack had the highest levels of desire, arousal and satisfaction from sex. [via chocolate.org]

We’re lucky creatures really you know.

Being able to experience many different types of orgasm is a real privilege for women.  Depending on mood, situation and stimulation, orgasms can vary enormously, from the gentle fluttering type to the earth-shattering “Oh my God” crashing waves type.

Dr Betty Dodson, an expert on female orgasm over the last thirty years has written several books on the subject which teach us celebrate our orgasms - read on:-

It’s been my experience that no two orgasms are exactly alike. The most common type is the “tension orgasm” where all the muscles tighten up until there’s an explosion. Then it’s all over. I call that one a “maintenance orgasm,” kind of like my childhood orgasms when I held my breath and didn’t move my body and came as fast as I could so no one would catch me masturbating. As a teenager, I did “sleeping beauty orgasms” with complete relaxation. I certainly didn’t want to act sexy, so there was no heavy breathing and no humping because that would have damaged my “good girl” image. So we’d kiss and my boyfriend would fondle my clitoris while I remained passive and beautiful until all of a sudden—the orgasm would come and get me. My attitude was, “I’m not responsible, I didn’t do anything, my body did that.”

Eventually I got into a combination of tension and relaxation which I call the “rock and roll orgasm.” That’s how an athlete uses her body: your muscles are tense and then you let them go, then they tense up again and you let them go, and it’s rhythmic. That’s the whole idea of fucking, moving rhythmically, and breathing. So, I’m definitely into the rock and roll orgasm, but I whip out those little tension orgasms when the pressure is on. As far as I’m concerned, I don’t have the patience to do the sleeping beauty, or the total relaxation orgasm any more: last time I tried, I just went to sleep. But I always say, “Whatever gets you off, go for it.” [via sexuality.org]

This is number 27 on the list, and one of my real pet hates.

I love to give head, don’t get me wrong, but I feel sometimes like it’s my “duty” to do so and if I don’t, then I’m not showing my man that I really desire him.  Utter b*ll*cks is all I can say to that - and, I worship his balls by the way, they’re a real handful and a half and I find it very arousing to cup and gently massage them.

But guys, generally speaking, we don’t need to be forced - we can find our own way down there under our own steam thank you.

27) Trying to force her head towards your cock

Let’s face it: she’s either willing to give your oral sex or she’s not. Trying to persuade her to get her lips around your glans by edging her head towards your groin is a bit crass, to say the least. If she doesn’t seem to be heading that way as things hot up, just ask her: “There’s something you could do that’d give me so much pleasure.....”

I bet we can all remember the humiliation of wetting our pants as a child.

As we grow up, we learn how to control it but it can be terribly liberating to ‘’just let go” sometimes and not give a damn.  I remember being stuck in heavy London traffic and absolutely dying for a pee but not being able to stop anywhere conveniently, so in the end, I had to just pee where I sat. The warm gush and feeling of utter relief was absolutely overwhelming and will stay with me forever.  I would, of course, have been mortified if anyone had known I was doing it at the time, but fortunately I was on my own (the seats were leather and as I understand it, urine is a very primitive method of leather tanning so no harm done there then!).

Some people derive great sexual pleasure out of being humiliated however, and to be tied up and left or even made to pee to order can be highly arousing:-

Some girls do love extreme erotic pleasures. We selected girls who like to be tied up and piss in such positions. They all love to feel horror of bondage and relaxation and forbidden fruit of pissing in front of strangers. Share their experience at our site and be part of the community. [via]

I don’t quite know what it is, but loads of people seem to be turned on either by peeing in public themselves or by watching others pee, knowingly or unknowingly.

It seems to be a predominantly male spectator sport (my man absolutely loves watching me pee) and whilst I don’t fully understand why, I find the following erotic story surprisingly arousing.

It was awesome a girl peeing in a guys washroom stall. I figured I had to be lucky, so as I watched she noticed me under there watching her, she was startled at first but got excited that someone was watching her pee. She wasn’t finished peeing yet so I asked if she can pee on me or even better in my mouth. [via literotica.com]

There’s something about the look and feel of stainless steel anal plugs that I find remarkably appealing.

They’re so clean, shiny and solid.  Even if I’m not so keen on having them inserted into me myself, I love to hold them and use them on my man.

Too much lube though and they can become, in the words of Vivian Ward, “slippery little suckers” and a little difficult to hold onto! 

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Why you shouldn’t swallow chewing gum!

Seriously though, gas and flatulence can be a real problem for women experiencing the menopause, and can be highly embarrassing:-

NASHVILLE A US domestic airliner made an emergency landing after a passenger lit matches to mask odours from her flatulence. The American Airlines flight bound for Dallas from Washington DC landed in Nashville, Tennessee. Other passengers reported the odour of burnt matches, but the woman was not forthcoming when asked about it, an airport spokeswoman said.

Since approximately one quarter of women have noted increased gas during menopause, some doctor’s have suggested that decreasing hormone production may play a role in this process. Other experts have stated that a change in diet around the menopause transition may lead to more gas and bloating. In fact, over 60% of women were eating more fruit and vegetables and over 70% have made changes in their diet during menopause according to a recent survey.[via]